You’re in charge of how people treat you. The question I’ll pose to you is are you voicing that?
The truth is walking through life feeling like you have no power over your relationships and how you engage in them. The statement, “I don’t have any control over people” is a total lie. Our ego wants to wrap our true nature around and it silences us. We’re trained and kind of brainwashed to think it is what it is, so just deal with it. Certain phrases we have as a society shows this. What are these particular statements that we grab onto and go on a rollercoaster ride. Habituated thoughts in our culture causes inner turmoil and a false lack of control.
If you’re not liking how you’re being treated, you do not have to listen to the lie that we don’t have any control over that. And it’s a lie we’re responsible for. Maybe you haven’t yourself the question yet. What do you find acceptable and not acceptable?
As an example to this in my own life, I didn’t stand by my boundaries within my opera career. Our power is in our boundaries around our desires. The number one step is having a conversation with yourself. How do you want to be treated and how do you voice that?
Without a conversation with ourselves, how are we supposed to have it with others? By not being available for giving your power away, you give back to your organic self respect.
Another conversation is how we treat other people. Do I show up on time? Do I show up? Am I present? Am I truthful? Am I reliable? Am I responsive? No shame in this conversation at all, you guys. A lot of times we don’t want to draw back the curtain to uncover the truth, but this lane is so much better than leaving it up to chance and shrugging your shoulders. Being in a set and resolved state about how we desire to be in the world in turn shows how the world is going to be in our lives. Some of the benefits that occurs include stepping away from an environment that is no longer serving you, leaving a job to work at something you love and allowing a person who needs to be working to take your place, letting go of certain habits and bring in nourishing patterns to serve your grander purpose, and communicating your feelings in a place of deep integrity.
It comes back to what you need. You are responsible. You are the common denominator in all experiences in your life. Bring the reflection back to yourself and uncover what it is actually in our own experience that may be projecting outwards and in turn back to us. Essentially, we are all mirrors to each other.